When you turn on the headlights, I assume the current is then is passed onto the unit for raising the lights.
I think you could either put in a timer between the headlight stalk or at the unit. I would say at the unit, incase the headlight stalk signal is just an initiator.
I think it would be relatively easy to use the signal from the headlight control unit to then go into a lazy eye controller.
Turn light on, signal goes to lazy controller, controller to headlight.
Although by the sounds of it it's what you're already doing
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